Monday May 28, 2018

Where Else Would I Go?

The first question a Jehovah's Witness will ask when confronted with the truthfulness of the Watchtower Society is:

"Where else would I go?"

This question is a "thought stopping" technique. It may appear valid but at the time of questioning it is often a mental diversion from an issue being discussed. The validity of whether the Watchtower Society promotes truth is deflected by inducing fear of what will come next.

Fear should not prevent an honest evaluation of the facts about the group. It is only once convinced that the Watchtower Society does not teach truth that a person can legitimately address and understand "where to now".

This question is not unique to Jehovah's Witnesses, but common to members of high control groups. Mormons, Seventh-day Adventists and Worldwide Church of God echo this identical sentiment. (See sites such as and Steven Hassan refers to this as Phobia Indoctrination, saying "members are systematically made to be phobic about ever leaving the group" 1. This fear is reason for the success high control groups have in keeping their members from facing the truth about their religion.

Where or Whom?

The Watchtower encourages the question "where to go" by misapplication of Scripture. Ask a Jehovah's Witness what Peter said when Jesus asked if he would leave him. The answer will invariably be that Peter said "where would I go?" as quoted by the Watchtower.

"Where could we turn if we would leave God"s organization today? There is nowhere else! (John 6:66-69)" Watchtower 1975 Sep 1 p.531

"Furthermore, suppose a person was to separate himself from Jehovah's people. Where could he go? Is he not faced with the same issue that confronted Jesus" apostles when he asked them if they also wanted to leave him? The apostle Peter rightly replied: "Lord, whom shall we go away to? You have sayings of everlasting life." (John 6:68) There is nowhere else to go but to "Babylon the Great," the world empire of false religion, or into the clutches of Satan"s political "wild beast." (Revelation 13:1; 18:1-5) Largely, disloyal ones who have left Jehovah's visible organization have made common cause with those in God-dishonoring "Babylon the Great." Watchtower 1988 Mar 15 pp.18-19

At John 6:68 Peter actually said to Jesus "Lord, whom shall we go away to?" This is the essence of Christianity; it is not about an organization but about being a follower of Jesus.

Galatians 3:29 "Moreover, if YOU belong to Christ, YOU are really Abraham"s seed, heirs with reference to a promise."

John 8:32, 36 "You will know the truth and the truth will set you free."

Freedom comes from belonging to Jesus, not an organization; otherwise a person is no freer than the Israelites that were enslaved to the legislation of the Pharisees. Likewise, salvation is only through Jesus.

John 10:9 "I am the door; whoever enters through me will be saved, and he will go in and out and find pasturage."

Acts 4:12 "Furthermore, there is no salvation in anyone else, for there is not another name under heaven that has been given among men by which we must get saved."

Acts 16:31 "Believe on the Lord Jesus and you will get saved, you and your household"

2 Timothy 2:10 "that they too may obtain the salvation that is in union with Christ Jesus along with everlasting glory."

What is Truth?

Jehovah's Witnesses believe there is an absolute truth and that the Watchtower Society represents it more accurately than anyone else.

"Brother Schroeder highlighted the confidence Jehovah's people have because their faith is based on absolutes. They know, for example, that Jehovah is the Universal Sovereign and that his Word, the Holy Bible, is absolute truth." Watchtower 1987 Dec 1 p.22

Believing the Watchtower version of this absolute truth is thought to be essential if a person does not wish to be destroyed at Armageddon.

"Our very hope of living forever is contingent on our growing in knowledge of Jehovah and his Son, Jesus Christ." Watchtower 2000 Oct 1 p.23

The idea that there is absolute truth is sound, what the Watchtower fails to acknowledge is that it is impossible for us to know absolute truth. If following absolute truth is the criteria for being acceptable to God the Watchtower precludes itself, due to the ongoing doctrinal errors and changes. To say that any one particular Christian group has a special key to "truth" has no Scriptural backing, and to search tens of thousands of religions is not only impossible but pointless, as no other religion teaches absolute truth either. Such a search is fraught with disappointment.

Why does a person need a concrete belief structure? Faith is the belief in what is unproven and by definition the very reason no one can prove a complete "truth", so why insist on demanding one? What is the answer? It is not doctrine; in fact Jesus rarely discussed doctrine. It is not an organisation; Jesus never mentioned an organisation. The Bible shows that Christ is 'truth'. The Bible message is to follow and recognise him as the means for salvation.


The fundamental premise of being a Jehovah's Witnesses is that worship of God requires an intermediary organization. This is so consistently enforced into the minds of a Jehovah's Witnesses that even when they learn that the Watchtower Society does not teach truth it is common to feel the need to fill the void with a similar organization. This feeling is simply due to the amount of emphasis the Watchtower Society places on being part of an organization. Even though the Bible never uses the word organization, between 1950 and 2003 the word organization occurs 10,466 times in the Watchtower magazine alone, an average of over 7 times per issue. Once a person knows the Watchtower does not teach truth, remnants of Watchtower indoctrination can deceive a person into believing that an organization is needed, and there is nothing better than the Watchtower Society.

The word organization does not appear in the Bible. For the first 2,500 years of human history there was no single organization and worship was not contingent on membership of a church. Yet we have records of the most God fearing men of all time; people such as Enoch, Joseph, Noah and Abraham. The Watchtower teaches that Oriental Job served God after the formation of the nation of Israel. Though he had no ties to this group God said that there was "no one like him in the earth" (Job 1:8)

In Christian times Jesus promised to be with his followers at all times providing individual sustenance and guidance through the Holy Spirit.

Matthew 28:20 "Look! I am with you all the daysuntil the conclusion of the system of things."

1 Corinthians 6:1 "What! Do YOU not know that the body of YOU people is [the] temple of the holy spirit within YOU, which YOU have from God?"

When the Samaritan woman asked where to worship, Jesus showed a physical place is not important, answering;

John 4:23 "Nevertheless, the hour is coming, and it is now, when the true worshipers will worship the Father with spirit and truth, for, indeed, the Father is looking for suchlike ones to worship him."

A person can rightfully worship alone or in small groups. Jesus promised that he would direct his followers no matter how many were gathered together.

Matthew 18:20 "Where there are two or three gathered together in my name, there I am in their midst!"

The social nature of humans fills people with the need to belong to a community. This is not God's need, but man's. A church is not essential for worship, but this is not to indicate that they are of no benefit, or that large gatherings are wrong. Jews had large festivals and would meet at the temple. Jesus spoke to 3,000 non believers on a mountain. Peter spoke to a large gathering after which 3,000 were baptized. Groups were formed by early Christians, "that the congregation may receive upbuilding". (1 Cor 14:5) Christian congregations met in houses with like minded people worshipping Christ. As traditionally common in society, mature members guided the newer ones - Acts 20:28.

The formation of congregations indicates order, but it does not imply an organization that demands unquestioning obedience. There was freedom to discuss different points of view without fear of retribution, such as when congregations disagreed over circumcision. When such serious disagreement arose a large group of older men came to consensus, the consensus was not to "further burden" the congregation. (Acts 15:28)

What now?

Worship is about faith in God, so what is the reason for belonging to a religion? It may be for teaching and ritual but in large part it is for fellowship. In seeking a group to worship with, one of the most important things to remember is that you have freedom of choice. Find the group most suitable for assisting you in that worship.

Joining a new religion can help a Jehovah's Witness move on from the experiences of the past and the continual rerun of Watchtower doctrine in ones mind. This is better than staying alone trying to create the correct version of Watchtower truth, or creating an anti-religious philosophy based solely on a negative Jehovah's Witness experience. In the process of meeting with others sharing your Witness experience can also be helpful to regular churchgoers.

People select their lifestyle and religion according to tastes; it has little to do with whether something is or is not true. The reason people become Witnesses is often the attraction to the message of living forever on a paradise earth. If they wish it to be true they see it as true. It is unfortunate that this is often just bait. Once hooked high control religions manipulate such people by convincing them they are worthless sinners if they do not follow particular flavour of Christianity. To think for yourself as an individual requires courage, a rational mind and the desire to become everything you actually are by nature.

With over 10,000 religious groups and 30,000 Christian sects globally it is impossible to examine a fraction of these and illogical to think there is a single correct religion. No group knows or teaches absolute truth so it is advisable to steer clear of any group whose leaders attempt to take intimate control of your life and opinions, taking away your basic human rights and freedom. Finding the right one for you is personal choice.

The overall mentality of the Church matters more than individual doctrines. Are the people friendly, accepting, reasonable and helpful? Many religious groups display "high control" and this is normally a good indication that they are worth avoiding. If a religion is strictly regimented and intolerant of others it is going beyond the Scriptures. When the leaders of a religious group are not to be questioned an unhealthy form of worship results. There are estimated to be more than 3,000 cults in America alone that fit this description. If a religion does not feel right to you it probably isn't right for you.

There is a distinction between religion and spirituality. Institutionalisation of spirituality leads to powerful hierarchial structures that enforce allegiance through segregation and enforce adherence to dogmatic belief systems. Where is better? A starting point is a belief structure that does not violate the fundamental rights of family. Whatever path taken, there is no need to allow humans to take from you your right to spiritual freedom.

There is no single destination for former Jehovah's Witnesses. Many Jehovah's Witnesses are so poisoned by their religious experience with the Watchtower Society that they are wary of being deceived by another group. Some loose all faith, becoming atheists or agnostics, often cynical that it is possible for anything to be proven true. Others find comfort in non judgmental faiths that promote peace, such as Buddhism. Those that hold on to their belief in the Bible generally are more likely to gravitate to a less dogmatic religion or stop believing it is necessary to attend any organised religious group. Many keep their love of God but their Watchtower experience makes them wary of joining any specific group. Conversely there is the risk of being attracted to another high control group for the comfortable similarity they offer.

On leaving do not feel rushed to join a new church. As a rule of thumb, allow at least a year to pass before making commitments to other groups. Time is necessary to heal and also for personal evaluation to take place to know what direction your life should take. Answer the question "Now that all I knew is gone what do I truly believe?" Only then can a person be ready join another community. Find a group or belief structure that satisfies your need for worship, but not at the expense of a successful and happy life firmly based on reality.

The emotional damage from placing trust in an organization that manipulated the course of your life regularly results in emotional problems similar to coming from an abusive family or relationship. To find that your family and friends reject you in favour of an organization leads many to self destruct. Many find it necessary to use medication or seek professional counselling from a Cognitive Behavioural Psychologist during this difficult time. Most important at the time of leaving is finding true friends to support you. This can be difficult, particularly for a person raised as a Jehovah's Witness, as time is needed to relate to society in general and build new relationships. Finding other former Jehovah's Witnesses can often assist in bridging that gap.

A monumental learning curve is in front of you as most aspects of your life will need re-evaluation. This becomes an insurmountable mountain for some, an exhilarating new journey for others. Allow time to develop without the manipulation of others. Attend chat forums such as where you can talk anonymously with people who have survived similar experiences. You will find that whatever your experience has been, you are not unique or alone. You will find people of similar disposition or situation to yourself and can learn from how they were able to move on with success. Rest assured - the pain of broken trust will pass. Meaning will not vanish from your life, you still will be you and life will continue with all its glorious highs and crushing lows. Despite the ongoing pain of being rejected by family and friends, most former Witnesses report being happier and healthier once freed. You may choose to join a less intrusive religion or prefer to separate worship from institutions.

It is inescapable that a void will be created when loosing ones beliefs, and it is fear of this void that makes a person ask "where else would I go". This should not be used as reason to avoid confronting the reality of the Watchtower Society. Once that reality is known a person can make an educated decision on how to proceed.


1 Combating Cult Mind Control p.45 Steven Hassan Park Street Press 1990 

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